When it comes to having a party, I'm always amazed by the preparation, time and effort people will make to organise it. It's fabulous what a bit of enthusiasm can do to create a momentum!

Momentum means drive, to get moving. When we are excited about something we just do things, how good does that feel when we get things done? It feels great and empowers you to keep going.

So why do so many of us stay in our comfort zones when we know this. Our comfort zone is the place and state of our mind where we exist.(I know,deep!) It may be in our job, health, career, family, sport or relationships. We feel safe there, so why change that?

What happened to all those dreams and ambitions you once had? When did we decide to settle for the average and not reach our true potential? Surely you don't wake up every morning and say I want to settle for second best or I want just to be average! Where did we lose that drive, momentum, enthusiasm? What we need to do is to find it again and re-ignite the passion.

Are we being held back by our negative thoughts and actions or the people we

associate with? Is this dictating what direction we are taking? We need to stop and think about whether we are happy or are we just pretending we are happy therefore never reaching our full potential.

We all have dreams, desires and ambitions to be better, no matter what that is, big or small. I can guarantee no matter who you are, what you do or how you think, we all want to be a bit better than where we are now. The thing is we may not want to go there just yet, for whatever reason and that's ok, but what we do need to do is define what we deserve in life and set out a plan to obtain it.

Whether we feel we are not worthy of success or we don't deserve it or whatever other reason, most times it comes down to one thing.

FEAR!!

Fear of failure, success, the unknown, change, whatever, it's still a fear. Why are we afraid? Fear is a defense mechanism we use to protect us from unpleasant risk or danger whether real or imagined. Sometimes we blow things way out of proportion and get ourselves into all kinds of distress. I heard this great acronym to sum up what fear really is:

False

Expectations

Appearing

Real

Using this we may just be able to control the situation a little bit better.

The only way to overcome your fears is to confront them, this may not be as easy as it sounds but somewhere along the line it's a must to enable growth. The more you prolong it the harder it becomes. Someone once said this to me when I was procrastinating over making a decision and I have never forgotten it.

"On the other side of fear is freedom"

Confront your fears and see what happens they may not be as big as what you initially thought and all of a sudden opportunities started to appear.

Transforming yourself can be quite liberating and who knows you could actually be happier than you are now. To stretch yourself is not a singular event it's a continual growing and learning process.

Choose today to challenge your comfort zone. So what you need to do is look at your life and see where you are holding yourself back from being great, find the reason why it's holding you back and start to make the changes.

You deserve to feel great and achieve your best in life!

So like the party preparations start planning, get organised and excited and start doing things. It's not that hard and just imagine feeling good about yourself, now there's a thought!